The horses and I work with a lot of couples. Some couples are wanting to understand each other more, some are considering getting married or need their partner to understand them better, in some causes learning to be kind to each other again. Many different people many different scenarios .
What always amazes me is majority of folks complain about what they don't like , find fault easily in each other , they have no idea what each other needs. Majority of time women don't know what they need and men know they need sex but noting else. If each other needs aren't being met the intimacy goes down hill fast. Intimacy is what keeps a relationship strong and healthy. With out intimacy couples lose their closeness and will look else were over time .
Women and Men are completely different, you know what? It's OK to be different . We need to celebrate and appreciate our differences . Life would be so boring if we were the same. How can couples be a better team? By learning as much as you can about the other person and what they need. We each have strength in different areas to help each other. There is no need to compete against each other you're on the same team, right? Some folks will literally suck the life out of you .
If this is your relationship please seek professional help. It just takes a little understanding what each other needs to have an incredible relationship/ marriage. First question What is your purpose, vision for being together. Every business has a vision statement . That statement sets the tone , forward movement to success.
Start talking about what your vision and purpose is for being together and write is down . Please be sure to include fun.